Life sure is crazy these days. So much is going on. The world is just chaotic. Nothing seems to make sense. Nothing seems to be going right. Everything seems to be happening at once. The only thing that gives me peace is knowing that God is still in control of it all.
On Gas
I filled my tank up monday evening. I had no idea that things were as bad as they are. I've gotten about 475457 emails and 30984230943.5 phone calls telling me to make sure i fill my tank up today again because gas prices are going up to over $3 today because of Katrina. It's been said that the gas flow has pretty much stopped coming in to georgia...and that gas stations are actually SHUTTING DOWN here because they have ran out of gas. RAN OUT OF GAS???? Do you know what something like this could do to our economy if not rectified soon? *smh* Life is crazy. My boss just told me to leave and go get gas now cuz the lines are out of the door. I guess they anticipate it being even worse when people leave work today. This is crazy. And the sad part is... i'm so friggin broke right now i don't even have any money to fill up one of those cans so that I can have extra gas just in case. lol. So if i run out... i'm just stuck in the house. No work for me. That would really suck though. I hate not being able to go places. Especially now that we don't have cable. *shrug*
On Katrina
I feel so bad everytime there's a natural disaster and i know there are casualties/fatalities. But is it just me or has the last few years been even worse in the tornado/hurricane/tropical storm department? I mean last year and this year it seems like every week something is happening somewhere. And it's not just minor things. The WORLD MAPS have to be changed because the tsunami last year shifted the earth to the point that earth is no longer the same. That island is now underwater...heck under the MUD of the water. The earth is filling up with water and the plates have moved. Just like it was prophesized in revelations... the climate is gonna definitely be affected...*sigh*. And then not only that...but in the last 2 weeks Romania, Bulgaria, Switzerland, Nigeria and Austria have ALL had MAJOR floods. I mean floods that were just as bad as Katrina. So much is happening. I just pray that folks take heed and start seeking God. If all this is not motivation to re-evaluate your life and purpose for being here i don't know what is. Cancer, Diabetes, AIDS...all that u can help control/prevent...but a doggone tornado? A hurricane? A tsunami? *smh* What u gonna do? It's sad. All i know is that people should DEFINITELY adhere to evacuation warnings. I hate to know that someone didn't think it would be this bad and died. I hated seeing people on the roof of their houses hoping that someone will just happen to see them from a plane and save them. People lost everything they've ever had. Friends, family, houses, cars, jobs, food. EVERYTHING. We become so desensitized from seeing it all the time, but when you really stop to think about that. It's very heart wrenching. How will they survive? I think about if it was us in atlanta. My whole family is here... so it's not as if we can just go visit family in another state til the storms over. We'd all pack up...and scrape up money for a hotel. Then what? If the entire city is destroyed...we'd be jobless...homeless...foodless etc. All of us in poverty...in a state/city we know nothing about...trying to figure things out. That's deep. Keep everyone in your prayers. And if you were blessed to not directly be affected then you REALLY should be thanking God.
On war
*sigh* I can't even began to talk about this. Just pray. Pray hard. The way the futures looking... it doesn't look too good for our soldiers. And the way the world is going now... if you look at Revalations, you'll see and KNOW exactly what's going on and what's actually taking place. All i will say is this...China is making some serious moves. Their army is pretty much feared. Their presence in america is definitely felt since alot of our imported goods come from them. *sigh* Alot more is going on then we realize. We MUST pray.
On relationships
It's one thing to be in love and to know you're meant to be. It's another to get his ex-wife and kids to see that. Though the kiddies really like me and refer to me as "that nice lady"... ultimately all kids of divorce want their parents back together. Though TG's been divorced for over 3 years, this is the first time he's moved more than 5 miles away from them. Even after the divorce, he and his ex raised the children pretty much together. They lived in a small town and he only moved one street down. He loves his kids. He wants to take care of his kids. But last december, God told him to move to Atlanta and since then, he's been visiting them on the weekends. The problem is that the more that time passes by...the more they realize that daddy isn't coming home...and they get sad. They are starting to act out at school, grades are dropping...etc.
Since their birth, he's always been around them ...everyday. When he and his ex separated he was their primary caretaker. Now everything is different. They miss him...and he misses them back. He talks about it openly to me because it hurts him so much. He feels like he's a bad father for not being there 24/7. He knows that the only way his kids will be thier happiest is if he'd come back home. And I feel like a bad person for not wanting him to move back down to take care of them but i need him too. I feel wrong for wanting him to think of what it'll do to us if he moved. But...I still do. I mean, he knows that if he moves down, it'll be the end of us and that will tear both him and I apart. And if we are apart...knowing that we're soulmates...knowing that God has so much planned for us in ministry...we will never truly be completely happy again. No matter if we marry someone else. I need him just as much as the kids do...and the thing about it is... if he stays up here... they'll still have a dad. He'll still visit them. They'll still visit us. It could still work. But if he moves back down there with them...there's his ex. And no matter if they get together or not...there will be no more us. It wouldn't work. Just wouldn't.
So I think he should move them up here... that would be the best for us both. But...what about what's best for them? *sigh* Blended families are hard. Especially when daddy loves his kids so much that he'd sacrifice his own happiness for theirs... and i'd sacrifice my own happiness for his. Every situation is hard for someone. Every scenario is easier said than done. So...we're still seeking God as to what to do about his kids because we KNOW what God told us. We're still confident on our future. And neither of us is willing to give up on our love....but reality is...his kids are suffering right now...and there's no way we can be completely happy in our relationship knowing what they are going through. Keep us in your prayers as we go through this rough patch in our relationship.
Wednesday, August 31, 2005
Monday, August 29, 2005
I suddenly...
...have the urge to be incognito. I guess that’s kinda hard since my pictures have been plastered up here for the last year or so. *shrug* Maybe people will forget. With each passing day…my face will be harder and harder to remember. Was my hair black or brown? Did I have a gap? What about freckles? Were her eyebrows the same length? Who cares?
I really wanna talk. I have so much to say….but I don’t know where to start…or how to say it. My life is so great. Sure there’s room for improvement. Better job…more money…less hours….I could be a little slimmer in the mid section and bigger in the rear section. lol. My teeth could be a little whiter. My student loans could be a lot lower. I’d love to owe no debt to any credit cards and etc… *shrug* But reality is… there will be trials... there will be heartaches...there will be mountains...there will be rain. If everything and everyone was completely perfect all the time...then what would we need God for? So yes...there are still things I could complain about or be unhappy about but… I don’t complain. I'm not unhappy. I just…can’t be. I can’t be sad because I am SOOOOOOO happy with the way God is allowing me to flow right now. I’ve never had such a peace and a sense of contentment the way I do right now. Knowing that I’m moving in the right direction and staying in His will while also having the desires of my heart is the best feeling I've ever experienced. It’s an indescribable feeling. If drugs feel anything like this then I finally understand why people use them. I guess I can finally say that I not only understand but I KNOW what the scripture means when it says that “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7). So much has been thrown my way since I truly decided to live my life for God, but one thing I can say is that His word is true. Psalms 34:13 says “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the LORD delivers him out of them all.” Indeed He has. The more I try to do right…the more evil seems to be present…the more drama seems to unfold…the more bills seem to pile up… the more things seem to go wrong. But what I now KNOW is that no matter what I go through…no matter what is thrown my way, as long as I keep praise on my lips and my eyes on God, He ALWAYS bring me out. He has never left me, never let me down, never forsaken me, never forgot about me. Everytime I have ever called on Him in sincerity, He’s always ALWAYS been right there.
Um…wow… I really wasn’t planning on going there. *shutting Bible and stepping down from pulpit* lol
It’s just so hard these days to contain what God is doing and has done in my life. Once I start thinking about His grace and goodness how can I NOT get happy? How can I NOT tell it?
Anyways… I know if I write anymore it’s gonna be a sermon. Haha. So I’ll just end this now. God Bless!
I really wanna talk. I have so much to say….but I don’t know where to start…or how to say it. My life is so great. Sure there’s room for improvement. Better job…more money…less hours….I could be a little slimmer in the mid section and bigger in the rear section. lol. My teeth could be a little whiter. My student loans could be a lot lower. I’d love to owe no debt to any credit cards and etc… *shrug* But reality is… there will be trials... there will be heartaches...there will be mountains...there will be rain. If everything and everyone was completely perfect all the time...then what would we need God for? So yes...there are still things I could complain about or be unhappy about but… I don’t complain. I'm not unhappy. I just…can’t be. I can’t be sad because I am SOOOOOOO happy with the way God is allowing me to flow right now. I’ve never had such a peace and a sense of contentment the way I do right now. Knowing that I’m moving in the right direction and staying in His will while also having the desires of my heart is the best feeling I've ever experienced. It’s an indescribable feeling. If drugs feel anything like this then I finally understand why people use them. I guess I can finally say that I not only understand but I KNOW what the scripture means when it says that “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7). So much has been thrown my way since I truly decided to live my life for God, but one thing I can say is that His word is true. Psalms 34:13 says “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the LORD delivers him out of them all.” Indeed He has. The more I try to do right…the more evil seems to be present…the more drama seems to unfold…the more bills seem to pile up… the more things seem to go wrong. But what I now KNOW is that no matter what I go through…no matter what is thrown my way, as long as I keep praise on my lips and my eyes on God, He ALWAYS bring me out. He has never left me, never let me down, never forsaken me, never forgot about me. Everytime I have ever called on Him in sincerity, He’s always ALWAYS been right there.
Um…wow… I really wasn’t planning on going there. *shutting Bible and stepping down from pulpit* lol
It’s just so hard these days to contain what God is doing and has done in my life. Once I start thinking about His grace and goodness how can I NOT get happy? How can I NOT tell it?
Anyways… I know if I write anymore it’s gonna be a sermon. Haha. So I’ll just end this now. God Bless!
Friday, August 26, 2005
Know me
Got this a while back from tha kid... just now getting around to posting it. lol..
TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF - The Survey
Name: Sway
Birthday: July 30th
Birthplace: ATL, GA born and raised shawty
Current Location:Lithonia, GA
Eye Color:Light Brown
Hair Color:Black
Height:5'2
Right Handed or Left Handed: Right
Your Heritage: Earthling
Your Weakness: Men and Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice cream
Your Fears:Falling out of God's will...trying hard and failing...and letting down loved ones...
Your Perfect Pizza:Lots of sauce (why they skimpy on the sauce?) and lots of pepperoni burnt and crispy! Mmmmmm.
Goal You Would Like To Achieve This Year: to be successful in my relationships w/ TG, family, friends and co-workers...and save money
Your Most Overused Phrase On an instant messenger: *smh*
Thoughts First Waking Up: Yay I'm alive! Thanks God.
Your Best Physical Feature: depends on who ya ask. Mostly i get, Eyes, Smile, and Skin tone
Your Bedtime: ideally it's 10:15....although since i met TG, it's been more like 12-1am
Your Most Missed Memory: Hearing my grandparents telling me how proud of me they were. (RIP)
Pepsi or Coke: Pepsi.....shhhh don't tell nobody. u know the "A" is a coke city.
McDonalds or Burger King: hmmmmmmm... dunno. it's a tie. I like McD's fries, apple pie and big mac and BK's fish sammich, whopper and onion rings.
Single or Group Dates: single. I like one on one time more. although tonight we're going on a group date. *kicking rocks*
Lipton Ice Tea or Nestea: uh neither... how bout some homeade sweet tea? Thanks. *"this is it" and "folks" have some pretty good tea*
Chocolate or Vanilla: Vanilla Ice cream.... chocolate cake.
Cappuccino or Coffee: Cappuccino
Do you Smoke: nope
Do you Swear: not anymore
Do you Sing: yupper
Do you Shower Daily:yupper. Gotta smell good. It’s a must.
Have you Been in Love: yupper. Don’t u read my blog?? lol
Do you want to go to College: uh... sure. although i've been already...i kinda wanna go back. Work is boring!! lol
Do you want to get Married: *blank stare*
Do you belive in yourself: yupper. I just have a hard time believing in others.
Do you get Motion Sickness: yupper.. i can't read in the car without feeling nauseous
Do you think you are Attractive: who wouldn't? lol. naw.. for real..yeah i do aight for myself. :)
Are you a Health Freak: nope
Do you get along with your Parents: usually...until i do something contrary to what they like...then they get all crazy on me.
Do you like Thunderstorms: nope. i like heavy rain...but not thuderstorms...cuz it's lightening if it's thundering...and i hate lightening!!
Do you play an Instrument: yup. piano, drums, clarinet... and i'm learning how to play the acoustic guitar.
In the past month have you Drank Alcohol: nope...oh wait... i had wine friday at the bachelorette party. Dang. Well besides that...nope.
In the past month have you Smoked: nope. Ugh!
In the past month have you been on Drugs: does theraflu count?
In the past month have you gone on a Date: yupper
In the past month have you gone to a Mall: yupper
In the past month have you eaten a box of Oreos: heck no! Those things are mini heart attacks. sugared lard...ewww!
In the past month have you eaten Sushi: yup
In the past month have you been on Stage: yup. What a great feeling.
In the past month have you been Dumped: nope. *whew*
In the past month have you gone Skinny Dipping: uh...define skinny dippin? lol
In the past month have you Stolen Anything: yup. i manage to steal a pen almost every week. sorry ya'll.
Ever been Drunk:not for real for real. i've been nice though
Ever been called a Tease: yup. story of my life. i can't help cuz u expecting me to put out just cuz i said you were cute and winked at u.ugh!
Ever been Beaten up: almost. *shuttering*
Ever Shoplifted: nope. my momma would kill me.
How do you want to Die:um... well...i was kinda hoping that i didn't have to… so let’s pretend I won’t. k? thanks!
What do you want to be when you Grow Up: i'm not sure if i'll ever grow up any more than i already have…which isn’t saying much. lol But if i did... i'd say Happy.
What country would you most like to Visit: Ethiopia
In a Boy/Girl..
Favourite Eye Color: don't have one. As long as it's his natural eye color... i'm cool. Men with color contacts...NOT.FOR.ME!!!
Favourite Hair Color: something dark
Short or Long Hair: short is my preference...but i don't mind long if it looks nice
Height: taller than me
Weight: hmm...if i ask him for one of his t-shirts to wear, and it fits like i bought it at baby gap...then he's too small. If i can't buy his clothes at a department store...then he's too big.
Best Clothing Style: matching. that's all i ask. That and um...please don't wear those white tube socks all pulled up...or with church shoes. ugh!
Number of Drugs I have taken: none... except prescription.
Number of CDs I own: i dunno. 30???
Number of Piercings: I’m down to 4 now
Number of Tattoos: none…right now.
Number of things in my Past I Regret: don’t know. Everybody’s on that… “I don’t regret anything cuz it shaped who I am today” bit…but really…I could definitely be better which leads me to believe that some things i've done in my past may have shaped me below ideal so...maybe if some thangs didn’t happen… or DID happen I'd be a better kind of different... so um…I dunno. I’ll say 3.
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Tuesday, August 23, 2005
Hmmmm...
Women’s Bathroom
Me: *washing my hands*
Random white lady: Wow, you’re a really great hand washer.
Me: *blink, blink* Uh, thanks?
Random white lady: No I mean really. You just get in there. You’re great. You have a great lather going…and you’re thorough. Geez. Its wonderful.
Me: *blank stare*
thinking: “did she just say I have a great lather going? (giggling inside) hmmmm…she’s really serious. I wonder if she’s crazy”
Random white lady: I mean, I know I probably don’t wash my hands as well as I should all the time but you…. you’re really good. You’re the best hand washer I’ve ever seen.
Me: *sorta feeling like I really should somehow be proud that my years of handwashing finally paid off or give some kind of speech since my skills are OBVIOUSLY well above average* Well yeah, I got it from my mom. She used to be in nursing school and it’s just a habit that rubbed off on me.
Random white lady: Aaah. Well that sorta explains it. *smiling*
Me: *half smiling and rushing to get out the bathroom* Okay…bye.
I mean ya’ll…I felt like I was on an episode of Seinfield or something. I figured only random crazy conversations about nothing only happened on tv. This should have been worked in the script of that episode about the “Man Hands” or something. Or the pie episode where the lady Jerry was dating wouldn’t eat the apple pie and then later Jerry wouldn’t eat the apple pie cuz he saw Papi in the mens room and he didn’t wash his hands. lol. Seinfield is crazy… anywho I digress. *smh* That was crazy though…Who compliments your hand washing abilities?
Me: *washing my hands*
Random white lady: Wow, you’re a really great hand washer.
Me: *blink, blink* Uh, thanks?
Random white lady: No I mean really. You just get in there. You’re great. You have a great lather going…and you’re thorough. Geez. Its wonderful.
Me: *blank stare*
thinking: “did she just say I have a great lather going? (giggling inside) hmmmm…she’s really serious. I wonder if she’s crazy”
Random white lady: I mean, I know I probably don’t wash my hands as well as I should all the time but you…. you’re really good. You’re the best hand washer I’ve ever seen.
Me: *sorta feeling like I really should somehow be proud that my years of handwashing finally paid off or give some kind of speech since my skills are OBVIOUSLY well above average* Well yeah, I got it from my mom. She used to be in nursing school and it’s just a habit that rubbed off on me.
Random white lady: Aaah. Well that sorta explains it. *smiling*
Me: *half smiling and rushing to get out the bathroom* Okay…bye.
I mean ya’ll…I felt like I was on an episode of Seinfield or something. I figured only random crazy conversations about nothing only happened on tv. This should have been worked in the script of that episode about the “Man Hands” or something. Or the pie episode where the lady Jerry was dating wouldn’t eat the apple pie and then later Jerry wouldn’t eat the apple pie cuz he saw Papi in the mens room and he didn’t wash his hands. lol. Seinfield is crazy… anywho I digress. *smh* That was crazy though…Who compliments your hand washing abilities?
Monday, August 22, 2005
God's Time...
1 hour. The amount of time it took during our first conversation for us to realize that we were gonna spend the rest of our lives together.
2 seconds. The maximum amount of time that can pass before we invade each other’s personal space with a hug/a kiss/touch.
3 years. The amount of time it took us to get prepared for each other. ( the ending of his marriage and my engagement and consequently the last serious relationship either of us had was three years ago)
4 minutes. The amount of time that can pass by before we’re missing each other again.
5 months. The amount of time God has allowed us to experience a love comparable to nothing i've experienced before.
6 weeks. The amount of time it took us to tell anyone that we “WERE”… or rather.... we “ARE”
7 days. The amount of time God separated us to prepare us for what He’s about to do through us.
I think those seven days were the biggest 7 days of my life. It changed my life. My thought pattern was more different during that week than it has EVER been. My whole being was reconstructed. My entire life was on pause while God operated on me.
7 is the number of completion and perfection. I guess that’s why God planned it that way. We went through a major surgery. A MAJOR surgery. I can’t explain what God did during those 7 days of separation right now….but I know that the level we’re on now…spiritually and relationship-wise…is much higher than it was even a few weeks ago. The impartation and permeation of God’s Holy Spirit in us individually, coupled with His divine manifestation through us as a two flesh becoming one has left us tangled up in a love triangle that none of us wants to get out of. Our love for each other is seen through our love for God. It’s because of our love for God and His love for us that we even exist. The very essence that is us….our passion, our fervor for each other, our magnetism…our unmistakable attraction… is so wrapped up with God’s pull and call on our lives that sometimes it’s hard to recognize which is which or whether there’s even a distinct difference at all….
Well… I know I’m probably not making sense. I just needed to get that out. Anyways…I got some work to do…so I’ll be around later.
2 seconds. The maximum amount of time that can pass before we invade each other’s personal space with a hug/a kiss/touch.
3 years. The amount of time it took us to get prepared for each other. ( the ending of his marriage and my engagement and consequently the last serious relationship either of us had was three years ago)
4 minutes. The amount of time that can pass by before we’re missing each other again.
5 months. The amount of time God has allowed us to experience a love comparable to nothing i've experienced before.
6 weeks. The amount of time it took us to tell anyone that we “WERE”… or rather.... we “ARE”
7 days. The amount of time God separated us to prepare us for what He’s about to do through us.
I think those seven days were the biggest 7 days of my life. It changed my life. My thought pattern was more different during that week than it has EVER been. My whole being was reconstructed. My entire life was on pause while God operated on me.
7 is the number of completion and perfection. I guess that’s why God planned it that way. We went through a major surgery. A MAJOR surgery. I can’t explain what God did during those 7 days of separation right now….but I know that the level we’re on now…spiritually and relationship-wise…is much higher than it was even a few weeks ago. The impartation and permeation of God’s Holy Spirit in us individually, coupled with His divine manifestation through us as a two flesh becoming one has left us tangled up in a love triangle that none of us wants to get out of. Our love for each other is seen through our love for God. It’s because of our love for God and His love for us that we even exist. The very essence that is us….our passion, our fervor for each other, our magnetism…our unmistakable attraction… is so wrapped up with God’s pull and call on our lives that sometimes it’s hard to recognize which is which or whether there’s even a distinct difference at all….
Well… I know I’m probably not making sense. I just needed to get that out. Anyways…I got some work to do…so I’ll be around later.
Wednesday, August 10, 2005
Dear Readers and Friends,
Due to unforseen circumstances, I will be taking a short vacation from blogging. Please keep TG and I in your prayers. Thanks.
Sway
Sway
Friday, August 05, 2005
My take on tha sit-chi-a-tion
Why do people date/court/have relationships?
In my opinion, the reason we date is to get to know a person and to see if they would be a fit candidate to marry. This process can take a long time because we want to make sure we see all sides of them, we want to make sure that they are what we're looking for. We want to make sure we’re ready, they are ready, we have the same goals, common interests… we want to make sure a lot of things. Whether it takes 6 months or 6 years, we spend our dating period pretty much trying to figure out if this person is “the one”. Now that is what I consider dating. Some people just date for the heck of it. lol. Know they ain’t looking for no long term fix…just wanna have an on-hand supply of sex…and for those people… I don’t consider that dating…but anywhoooo… I digress.
My question to you is, how long do you wait to marry that person AFTER you’re sure that this is they person u are supposed to spend the rest of your life with?
Most engagements are what 6 months to a year? So I guess once people find out that they indeed want to marry “such and such” they wait no more than a year to do it.
That doesn’t seemed rushed does it? It seems reasonable to me.
I guess this is why I am going to answer this next question the way I will.
Cymple asked a wonderful question. One that I’ve went over a thousand times...and one that almost every rational person would probably ask us once TG and I announce our engagement. WHY RUSH? WHAT’S THE RUSH!
I can admit, things ARE happening fast. Sometimes even WE are a little overwhelmed at how things are transpiring. Yet we when we look at it from a spiritual stand point, and we look at how everything that’s happened to us in the past has lead up to our meeting NOW… it’s not really all that fast…or overwhelming. It’s actually been quite a long time coming. Plus to be honest, we both prayed for things to happen this way. I guess that’s why gramma always used to say, “Be careful what u pray for”. I mean I’m glad I got it…but there was a lot of things we didn’t take into consideration when asking God for our spouse NOW…and letting us recognize each other from jump. I remember plain as day …and he does too, asking God to send us to each other. ASAP. I was ready for my husband. He was ready for his wife. We wanted each other NOW. And from the first conversation we had… we both knew. Since that day, our life has been one fast but wonderful journey.
We’re not crazy… we KNOW it’s hard to understand on the outside.
In the natural, it looks like two crazy and desperate kids rushing into a very serious and lasting relationship/marriage without knowing each other well enough. Trust me… there’s nothing anyone can think about TG and I that I haven’t already thought of myself. I’m a pretty rational thinker…even if I don’t always make rational decisions. I can never be accused of not “thinking rationally”. I usually weigh all my options first. I usually look at all sides. I pride myself on that. So I do know…whenever we do pop the big question on my parents first…(since he’s old fashioned…he wants to get my dad’s approval first) …the peaceful world as we now know it will be filled with confused parents, friends, and family wondering what is the rush! lol
I guess it’s all about perspective. It goes back to my initial question… How long do you wait to marry that person AFTER you’re sure that this is they person u are supposed to spend the rest of your life with?
For us, the first day we met we knew...so each day after that, we were pretty much where it take other couples months and years to get.
Come peep inside.
I was engaged once. TG was married once. I was with my ex for almost 4 years. He was with his ex for almost 7. We know about years. We know about how people and things change. We know that some things only time will tell. We’ve been there. What we’ve both learned it’s not about years and time spent as it is the quality of the time spent and the sureness of what you're doing is ordained by God. If we’re right together, we’re right together. If we’re not…we’re just not. In my opinion, time doesn’t change that. Time only confirms.
Anyways, I’ve dated since then. A LOT. lol. I’m sure you all have seen quite a few initials of guys names mentioned right here on the ole blog. But not once…did I ever mention someone as being “THE ONE”. Yeah…I got friends that would have made good husbands…but never did I FEEL in my spirit that they were “the one”. Same with TG… he’s dated A LOT of women since his divorce. We were both very unfulfilled. Mainly because we weren’t doing what God had told us to do. What we didn’t realize is that once we got in His will…He’d give us everything we were searching for. So we dated other people…but never was either of us fully fulfilled. Partly because neither of us ever truly gave ourselves to another person after our failed attempt at love with our ex’s. Sure we tried to do it. We “thought” we were giving everything…but we never really gave our heart to someone else. We didn't realize why til now. We couldn't give away what wasn't ours. His heart belongs to me, and mine to him. Which is why it took NO effort for either of us to get past each others his layers and brick walls and force fields we put up around our hearts. We were each others key. Everything fell into place with no effort or help from us. It was ordained from jump.
Both of our prayers were pretty much the same. “Lord, Grant me the discernment to recognize him/her as he/she recognizes me. Lord, I’m ready to love the person you’ve prepared for me. Lord, I need him/her NOW. Please Lord. PLEASE!” lol
Not realizing that once we both cleaned up our act…and prayed that prayer in sincerity…that God would do JUST THAT.
We knew we were husband and wife from our first conversation. The first date sealed our fate. I remember looking across the table at him for the first time really and saying to myself, “So this is my husband”. Before that day, we had been around each other, I’ve glanced in his direction, and observed his movements with my peripheral vision, but I never really looked AT him. Same with him. We talked all week about the fact that we found ourselves falling in love with each other’s spirit before we even really LOOKED at each other’s face. God had placed us together in spirit first. Then everything else just followed suit.
There have been a few times that I got cold feet and went into denial about whether or not he was my husband because it was hard for me to believe that God really did give me JUST what I asked for. But then He reminded me that when I seek Him first…he’d give me the desires of my heart. Ask…and you shall receive. I asked God to let us know immediately when we meet each other that we were husband and wife. And He did just that. Now… why rush you ask?
Well…. Like I said. It doesn’t seem rushed. It’s like… we kinda skipped the whole… well let’s date to see if we’re compatible…if you’re the one…if we both like pasta and jazz music stage. All of that fell into place AFTER we realized that we were soulmates. The connection we had was spiritual from the start. Our spirits linked before we even really looked at each other. We were already praying for our future together on the phone before our first date. Everything was accelerated from jump because that’s pretty much what both of us asked God for. I didn’t wanna play around and date to try and figure out this or that. I wanted to KNOW. And we do KNOW. So know that we KNEW… what’s next? Date..? Date for what? Wait…? Wait for what?
If you know they are the one, they know u the one, everyone else knows ya’ll gonna get married…and u can’t really move forward until u do…then the way I see it, the question is not why rush, it’s why wait? I mean, I’m being a little facetious…but I’m still serious.
Here are the facts…
We wanna be together. We got things to do. Goals to accomplish…ministries to start…children to have (I’m still young…but he’s getting up there. lol)... and none can be done til we’re married. We aren’t intimate despite the overwhelming desire to be…(especially when I spend the night…Lord help me! lol)…so of course that kinda makes us wanna get things moving. And…we can’t shack up cuz neither one of us is into that… and this living apart and seeing each other on the weekends SUCK. So….. since we know we GONNA be together regardless…and we really really WANNA be together now…so why not just do it right and start our lives together now?! I look at life and realize that it’s too short to wait and stop and procrastinate about things you are SURE of. Now if I had some doubts…then yeah, I’d wait. But God has blessed us to find each other, I’m ready to enjoy my blessing to the fullest extent and I can’t do that until we’re married. So why put off for tomorrow what I can do today? Tomorrow’s not promised… so we find ourselves at the point where we’re like… hey, let’s do it. :)
Okay, next week part deux… Reasons why we will at least wait until next year. (instead of doing what we really wanna do by saying screw it, and elope)
PS. Comments/Feedback encouraged.
In my opinion, the reason we date is to get to know a person and to see if they would be a fit candidate to marry. This process can take a long time because we want to make sure we see all sides of them, we want to make sure that they are what we're looking for. We want to make sure we’re ready, they are ready, we have the same goals, common interests… we want to make sure a lot of things. Whether it takes 6 months or 6 years, we spend our dating period pretty much trying to figure out if this person is “the one”. Now that is what I consider dating. Some people just date for the heck of it. lol. Know they ain’t looking for no long term fix…just wanna have an on-hand supply of sex…and for those people… I don’t consider that dating…but anywhoooo… I digress.
My question to you is, how long do you wait to marry that person AFTER you’re sure that this is they person u are supposed to spend the rest of your life with?
Most engagements are what 6 months to a year? So I guess once people find out that they indeed want to marry “such and such” they wait no more than a year to do it.
That doesn’t seemed rushed does it? It seems reasonable to me.
I guess this is why I am going to answer this next question the way I will.
Cymple asked a wonderful question. One that I’ve went over a thousand times...and one that almost every rational person would probably ask us once TG and I announce our engagement. WHY RUSH? WHAT’S THE RUSH!
I can admit, things ARE happening fast. Sometimes even WE are a little overwhelmed at how things are transpiring. Yet we when we look at it from a spiritual stand point, and we look at how everything that’s happened to us in the past has lead up to our meeting NOW… it’s not really all that fast…or overwhelming. It’s actually been quite a long time coming. Plus to be honest, we both prayed for things to happen this way. I guess that’s why gramma always used to say, “Be careful what u pray for”. I mean I’m glad I got it…but there was a lot of things we didn’t take into consideration when asking God for our spouse NOW…and letting us recognize each other from jump. I remember plain as day …and he does too, asking God to send us to each other. ASAP. I was ready for my husband. He was ready for his wife. We wanted each other NOW. And from the first conversation we had… we both knew. Since that day, our life has been one fast but wonderful journey.
We’re not crazy… we KNOW it’s hard to understand on the outside.
In the natural, it looks like two crazy and desperate kids rushing into a very serious and lasting relationship/marriage without knowing each other well enough. Trust me… there’s nothing anyone can think about TG and I that I haven’t already thought of myself. I’m a pretty rational thinker…even if I don’t always make rational decisions. I can never be accused of not “thinking rationally”. I usually weigh all my options first. I usually look at all sides. I pride myself on that. So I do know…whenever we do pop the big question on my parents first…(since he’s old fashioned…he wants to get my dad’s approval first) …the peaceful world as we now know it will be filled with confused parents, friends, and family wondering what is the rush! lol
I guess it’s all about perspective. It goes back to my initial question… How long do you wait to marry that person AFTER you’re sure that this is they person u are supposed to spend the rest of your life with?
For us, the first day we met we knew...so each day after that, we were pretty much where it take other couples months and years to get.
Come peep inside.
I was engaged once. TG was married once. I was with my ex for almost 4 years. He was with his ex for almost 7. We know about years. We know about how people and things change. We know that some things only time will tell. We’ve been there. What we’ve both learned it’s not about years and time spent as it is the quality of the time spent and the sureness of what you're doing is ordained by God. If we’re right together, we’re right together. If we’re not…we’re just not. In my opinion, time doesn’t change that. Time only confirms.
Anyways, I’ve dated since then. A LOT. lol. I’m sure you all have seen quite a few initials of guys names mentioned right here on the ole blog. But not once…did I ever mention someone as being “THE ONE”. Yeah…I got friends that would have made good husbands…but never did I FEEL in my spirit that they were “the one”. Same with TG… he’s dated A LOT of women since his divorce. We were both very unfulfilled. Mainly because we weren’t doing what God had told us to do. What we didn’t realize is that once we got in His will…He’d give us everything we were searching for. So we dated other people…but never was either of us fully fulfilled. Partly because neither of us ever truly gave ourselves to another person after our failed attempt at love with our ex’s. Sure we tried to do it. We “thought” we were giving everything…but we never really gave our heart to someone else. We didn't realize why til now. We couldn't give away what wasn't ours. His heart belongs to me, and mine to him. Which is why it took NO effort for either of us to get past each others his layers and brick walls and force fields we put up around our hearts. We were each others key. Everything fell into place with no effort or help from us. It was ordained from jump.
Both of our prayers were pretty much the same. “Lord, Grant me the discernment to recognize him/her as he/she recognizes me. Lord, I’m ready to love the person you’ve prepared for me. Lord, I need him/her NOW. Please Lord. PLEASE!” lol
Not realizing that once we both cleaned up our act…and prayed that prayer in sincerity…that God would do JUST THAT.
We knew we were husband and wife from our first conversation. The first date sealed our fate. I remember looking across the table at him for the first time really and saying to myself, “So this is my husband”. Before that day, we had been around each other, I’ve glanced in his direction, and observed his movements with my peripheral vision, but I never really looked AT him. Same with him. We talked all week about the fact that we found ourselves falling in love with each other’s spirit before we even really LOOKED at each other’s face. God had placed us together in spirit first. Then everything else just followed suit.
There have been a few times that I got cold feet and went into denial about whether or not he was my husband because it was hard for me to believe that God really did give me JUST what I asked for. But then He reminded me that when I seek Him first…he’d give me the desires of my heart. Ask…and you shall receive. I asked God to let us know immediately when we meet each other that we were husband and wife. And He did just that. Now… why rush you ask?
Well…. Like I said. It doesn’t seem rushed. It’s like… we kinda skipped the whole… well let’s date to see if we’re compatible…if you’re the one…if we both like pasta and jazz music stage. All of that fell into place AFTER we realized that we were soulmates. The connection we had was spiritual from the start. Our spirits linked before we even really looked at each other. We were already praying for our future together on the phone before our first date. Everything was accelerated from jump because that’s pretty much what both of us asked God for. I didn’t wanna play around and date to try and figure out this or that. I wanted to KNOW. And we do KNOW. So know that we KNEW… what’s next? Date..? Date for what? Wait…? Wait for what?
If you know they are the one, they know u the one, everyone else knows ya’ll gonna get married…and u can’t really move forward until u do…then the way I see it, the question is not why rush, it’s why wait? I mean, I’m being a little facetious…but I’m still serious.
Here are the facts…
We wanna be together. We got things to do. Goals to accomplish…ministries to start…children to have (I’m still young…but he’s getting up there. lol)... and none can be done til we’re married. We aren’t intimate despite the overwhelming desire to be…(especially when I spend the night…Lord help me! lol)…so of course that kinda makes us wanna get things moving. And…we can’t shack up cuz neither one of us is into that… and this living apart and seeing each other on the weekends SUCK. So….. since we know we GONNA be together regardless…and we really really WANNA be together now…so why not just do it right and start our lives together now?! I look at life and realize that it’s too short to wait and stop and procrastinate about things you are SURE of. Now if I had some doubts…then yeah, I’d wait. But God has blessed us to find each other, I’m ready to enjoy my blessing to the fullest extent and I can’t do that until we’re married. So why put off for tomorrow what I can do today? Tomorrow’s not promised… so we find ourselves at the point where we’re like… hey, let’s do it. :)
Okay, next week part deux… Reasons why we will at least wait until next year. (instead of doing what we really wanna do by saying screw it, and elope)
PS. Comments/Feedback encouraged.
Monday, August 01, 2005
Happy B-day to ME!!!!
Whew! What a weekend. *plopping down at my desk*
If i had ANY sense whatsoever, i would have taken today and tomorrow off to catch up on some sleep and some cleaning since this weekend lacked both. You guys, I am SOOOOOO happy. *smiling all cheesy* I had a Waaaaanda-ful birthday! *clapping* Starting friday, everything just flowed so nicely. TG takes birthdays very seriously, so he'd been saving for it. He had to cuz he had presentS for me everyday. lol So, here's the quick and dirty err...undirty rundown of my weekend.
Friday- Got to work and was greeted by a cute little b-day card from my co-workers. I'm very sad to report that there was no money in it. lol...But it was still sweet. They ended up taking me to lunch at La Fonda Latina. At first i was NOT feeling it. It looked like a run down hole-in-the-wall place...but u know what they say... it's always a good sign if there's a lot of people there. And La Fonda's was PACKED. We pretty much had to park on the street and walk to the restaurant. The place had lots of character but I wasn't too impresses still. lol. All 14 of us walked in and looked around the cramped spot and decided to go upstairs to the patio. Once up there, I began to feel better. I love being outside. We sat down and enjoyed the scenery and each other. I looked over the mexican-cuban based menu and chose to go with the quesadillas bistel (with rice and beans of course. lol) and it was surprisingly delicious. I mean, REALLY delicious. I wanna go again. lol. Anyway, they sung happy b-day to me and we were finally back at the office about 2.5 hours later. I ended up leaving work a little early because i was bored and anxious to start my weekend. So I sped home...only to be greeted by traffic. YUCK! I ended up getting home about my normal time. lol... I guess it was good i left a little early or i would have been behind schedule. Anyways... i showered and did my thang. I couldn't wait to see TG. With our schedules the way it is... we pretty much see each other on the weekends only...so by friday, i can hardly wait to jump into his arms and be showered by his hugs, and kisses, and I love you's. I finally managed to get so fresh and so clean, clean. My huuur was laid. I looked stunning if i do say so myself. Too stunning to be just going over my baby's house to put on some pj's, eat cookies and cream ice cream and watch all our favorite movies. lol. But when i saw him, that's all i wanted to do. I didn’t wanna be out and about. I didn’t wanna share. I wanted us to enjoy US. And we did just that. I got there with my overnight bag…and he looked amazing. He was just as decked out as I was. I kept thinking to myself… “I did GOOD!” *pat on my back* lol We embraced each other and that was all she wrote…within 10 minutes we were curled up on the couch watching Diary of a Mad Black Woman and eating ice cream. All plans…cancelled. That moment was priceless.
Before bed he told me he wanted to give me one of my presents then…since it was technically my birthday. After his whole “I love you and adore you” speech that left me in tears, he made me cover my eyes before revealing a dozen beautiful multicolored roses. NONE of which were red. I don’t like red roses. Ugh! (sorry delta’s) Here's a pic... sorry it's not a good one. *shrug*
He also gave me a beautiful gold bracelet-watch. I was so happy. I wore it to bed. lol (sorry no pic… I don’t have that one on today)
(edit 8.2.05: i do have on the watch today...so here's a pic. k,bye)
Saturday- I was awakened by the most tender shoulder kiss I’ve ever received. I felt every ounce of love he felt for me in that kiss. It was so deep it woke me out of my sleep. Smiling, we gazed at each other for a while and then he told me happy birthday… again…for the umpteenth time. I forgot to mention that Friday, he had a birthday countdown. lol. Every hour on the hour from about 7am Friday morning, he’d text me “happy birthday, ___ more hours!” along with some beautiful words expressing his love. *dreamy sigh* He’s good. After I said thanks, he took me by the hand, and we prayed and thanked God for life and etc.
Our first outing was waffle house. I jokingly told him that no birthday is complete without waffle house. It seems that every year, I manage to wind up there. This is the first time that I was glad about it though. A sista was HUNGRY! lol.
We went apartment hunting. I found one I kinda like, but I’m still looking. I got plenty of calls from people I wasn’t expecting one from. Isn’t that how it always is? The people that you just KNEW was going to call…didn’t. But the ones you didn’t even think knew or remembered your birthday…did. My good friend Mr. Poop sent me some pretty daisies. (note to self: I have GOT to get a better camera phone… this camera sucks)
Around 2:30, TG popped another gift on me. lol We were in his car jamming to Commisioned and he told me to open his glove compartment. There was a long kay jeweler’s box there. I smiled excitedly and opened it. There lay a beautiful diamond and topaz colored bracelet. (TG loves blue) I tried to take a pic of it just now, but again, it’s not clear and does the bracelet NO justice. You can't even see the beatiful blue stones. *frowning at pic below*
Anywho… I’m in the car jumping up and down excitedly and thanking him by grabbing his neck and pulling him over to me so I could kiss his cheek and neck. Um…I forgot he was driving. *looking down in silence* Aaaaaaaaanywho… he managed not to crash…and vowed to NEVER give me a gift in the car again. lol (sorry u can’t see the beautiful detail and color. It’s really pretty though)
Well…I HAD to wear the bracelet to dinner that night with him and the family, so I convinced him that we needed to go to the mall. lol We looked and looked for a blue or black outfit to set off my newest “bling” but we were rushing cuz it was now 3:30ish…and we had to swing by our group rehearsal @ 5 so they could say happy b-day to me and gimme my "present"…and then dinner was at 6:30 and neither of us was dressed. So I reluctantly gave up my new attire search and decided to go to his house and put on the cute dress I originally had planned to wear. But before we could go… we made a trip to Zales. I showed him the ring I had been eyeing…but before I could get someone to help us, we both saw the perfect ring. I MUST HAVE IT. I have never seen anyone with this ring. It was truly unique…and we both loved it. I think we’re getting that one. We got the specs and price and after I tried it on and made love to it with my eyes… we parted ways with my ring…and rushed to his house to get ready for my b-day dinner.
We went to Maggiano’s for my b-day dinner celebration. I introduced him to the rest of my family… he finally met my uncles, and my crazy cousins. He was right at home. The highlight of dinner is when he turned to my grandmother and said “U need some help with that Grandma?” My heart melted. I look over at him helping her with some mash potatoes and I felt a tear form. I’ve never bring guys around my family. But he just fits. I loved it.
More presents. I was excited. Yay! My parents bought me a watch too…it’s the silverly watch in the pic with TG’s bracelet *scroll back up*. I was like, “what ya’ll trying to say? What? I’m always late or something?”
They also bought me some clothes. Actually, the funny thing is that the one blue outfit I DID see at the mall earlier but decided not to get due to time constraints and the horrendous line due to “tax free weekend”… my mom bought me. lol So it all worked out.
TG brought out another small box. I couldn’t take it… this brotha was showing OUT. lol. He brought me some beautiful diamond studs. I have them on now…but u can’t see the pic well but…these are they.
Everyone else gave me money. (YAY!)
Sunday- church…then dinner with friends. I think I wore TG out this weekend. He was doing a whole lot of planning and driving Saturday…And even though it doesn’t seem like it…I only gave u the highlights. A lot more happened. lol. By Sunday afternoon…he was looking tiiiiiiiiide.
After dinner, he gave me another rose and a card, took me to his house and we napped til 10pm. lol. Then he took me home and called me once he got back in. We talked for about 30 minutes... then we went to sleep. We had a loooooooong weekend. And I enjoyed it. I had a GREAT birthday. I spent it with my loved ones. I got more than I could have imagined…and no orange bras were exposed, no guilt from kissing an ex…no exposed cheaters with girlfriends in different states, no spending my birthday alone and crying. Thanks God. I really feel blessed!
If i had ANY sense whatsoever, i would have taken today and tomorrow off to catch up on some sleep and some cleaning since this weekend lacked both. You guys, I am SOOOOOO happy. *smiling all cheesy* I had a Waaaaanda-ful birthday! *clapping* Starting friday, everything just flowed so nicely. TG takes birthdays very seriously, so he'd been saving for it. He had to cuz he had presentS for me everyday. lol So, here's the quick and dirty err...undirty rundown of my weekend.
Friday- Got to work and was greeted by a cute little b-day card from my co-workers. I'm very sad to report that there was no money in it. lol...But it was still sweet. They ended up taking me to lunch at La Fonda Latina. At first i was NOT feeling it. It looked like a run down hole-in-the-wall place...but u know what they say... it's always a good sign if there's a lot of people there. And La Fonda's was PACKED. We pretty much had to park on the street and walk to the restaurant. The place had lots of character but I wasn't too impresses still. lol. All 14 of us walked in and looked around the cramped spot and decided to go upstairs to the patio. Once up there, I began to feel better. I love being outside. We sat down and enjoyed the scenery and each other. I looked over the mexican-cuban based menu and chose to go with the quesadillas bistel (with rice and beans of course. lol) and it was surprisingly delicious. I mean, REALLY delicious. I wanna go again. lol. Anyway, they sung happy b-day to me and we were finally back at the office about 2.5 hours later. I ended up leaving work a little early because i was bored and anxious to start my weekend. So I sped home...only to be greeted by traffic. YUCK! I ended up getting home about my normal time. lol... I guess it was good i left a little early or i would have been behind schedule. Anyways... i showered and did my thang. I couldn't wait to see TG. With our schedules the way it is... we pretty much see each other on the weekends only...so by friday, i can hardly wait to jump into his arms and be showered by his hugs, and kisses, and I love you's. I finally managed to get so fresh and so clean, clean. My huuur was laid. I looked stunning if i do say so myself. Too stunning to be just going over my baby's house to put on some pj's, eat cookies and cream ice cream and watch all our favorite movies. lol. But when i saw him, that's all i wanted to do. I didn’t wanna be out and about. I didn’t wanna share. I wanted us to enjoy US. And we did just that. I got there with my overnight bag…and he looked amazing. He was just as decked out as I was. I kept thinking to myself… “I did GOOD!” *pat on my back* lol We embraced each other and that was all she wrote…within 10 minutes we were curled up on the couch watching Diary of a Mad Black Woman and eating ice cream. All plans…cancelled. That moment was priceless.
Before bed he told me he wanted to give me one of my presents then…since it was technically my birthday. After his whole “I love you and adore you” speech that left me in tears, he made me cover my eyes before revealing a dozen beautiful multicolored roses. NONE of which were red. I don’t like red roses. Ugh! (sorry delta’s) Here's a pic... sorry it's not a good one. *shrug*
He also gave me a beautiful gold bracelet-watch. I was so happy. I wore it to bed. lol (sorry no pic… I don’t have that one on today)
(edit 8.2.05: i do have on the watch today...so here's a pic. k,bye)
Saturday- I was awakened by the most tender shoulder kiss I’ve ever received. I felt every ounce of love he felt for me in that kiss. It was so deep it woke me out of my sleep. Smiling, we gazed at each other for a while and then he told me happy birthday… again…for the umpteenth time. I forgot to mention that Friday, he had a birthday countdown. lol. Every hour on the hour from about 7am Friday morning, he’d text me “happy birthday, ___ more hours!” along with some beautiful words expressing his love. *dreamy sigh* He’s good. After I said thanks, he took me by the hand, and we prayed and thanked God for life and etc.
Our first outing was waffle house. I jokingly told him that no birthday is complete without waffle house. It seems that every year, I manage to wind up there. This is the first time that I was glad about it though. A sista was HUNGRY! lol.
We went apartment hunting. I found one I kinda like, but I’m still looking. I got plenty of calls from people I wasn’t expecting one from. Isn’t that how it always is? The people that you just KNEW was going to call…didn’t. But the ones you didn’t even think knew or remembered your birthday…did. My good friend Mr. Poop sent me some pretty daisies. (note to self: I have GOT to get a better camera phone… this camera sucks)
Around 2:30, TG popped another gift on me. lol We were in his car jamming to Commisioned and he told me to open his glove compartment. There was a long kay jeweler’s box there. I smiled excitedly and opened it. There lay a beautiful diamond and topaz colored bracelet. (TG loves blue) I tried to take a pic of it just now, but again, it’s not clear and does the bracelet NO justice. You can't even see the beatiful blue stones. *frowning at pic below*
Anywho… I’m in the car jumping up and down excitedly and thanking him by grabbing his neck and pulling him over to me so I could kiss his cheek and neck. Um…I forgot he was driving. *looking down in silence* Aaaaaaaaanywho… he managed not to crash…and vowed to NEVER give me a gift in the car again. lol (sorry u can’t see the beautiful detail and color. It’s really pretty though)
Well…I HAD to wear the bracelet to dinner that night with him and the family, so I convinced him that we needed to go to the mall. lol We looked and looked for a blue or black outfit to set off my newest “bling” but we were rushing cuz it was now 3:30ish…and we had to swing by our group rehearsal @ 5 so they could say happy b-day to me and gimme my "present"…and then dinner was at 6:30 and neither of us was dressed. So I reluctantly gave up my new attire search and decided to go to his house and put on the cute dress I originally had planned to wear. But before we could go… we made a trip to Zales. I showed him the ring I had been eyeing…but before I could get someone to help us, we both saw the perfect ring. I MUST HAVE IT. I have never seen anyone with this ring. It was truly unique…and we both loved it. I think we’re getting that one. We got the specs and price and after I tried it on and made love to it with my eyes… we parted ways with my ring…and rushed to his house to get ready for my b-day dinner.
We went to Maggiano’s for my b-day dinner celebration. I introduced him to the rest of my family… he finally met my uncles, and my crazy cousins. He was right at home. The highlight of dinner is when he turned to my grandmother and said “U need some help with that Grandma?” My heart melted. I look over at him helping her with some mash potatoes and I felt a tear form. I’ve never bring guys around my family. But he just fits. I loved it.
More presents. I was excited. Yay! My parents bought me a watch too…it’s the silverly watch in the pic with TG’s bracelet *scroll back up*. I was like, “what ya’ll trying to say? What? I’m always late or something?”
They also bought me some clothes. Actually, the funny thing is that the one blue outfit I DID see at the mall earlier but decided not to get due to time constraints and the horrendous line due to “tax free weekend”… my mom bought me. lol So it all worked out.
TG brought out another small box. I couldn’t take it… this brotha was showing OUT. lol. He brought me some beautiful diamond studs. I have them on now…but u can’t see the pic well but…these are they.
Everyone else gave me money. (YAY!)
Sunday- church…then dinner with friends. I think I wore TG out this weekend. He was doing a whole lot of planning and driving Saturday…And even though it doesn’t seem like it…I only gave u the highlights. A lot more happened. lol. By Sunday afternoon…he was looking tiiiiiiiiide.
After dinner, he gave me another rose and a card, took me to his house and we napped til 10pm. lol. Then he took me home and called me once he got back in. We talked for about 30 minutes... then we went to sleep. We had a loooooooong weekend. And I enjoyed it. I had a GREAT birthday. I spent it with my loved ones. I got more than I could have imagined…and no orange bras were exposed, no guilt from kissing an ex…no exposed cheaters with girlfriends in different states, no spending my birthday alone and crying. Thanks God. I really feel blessed!
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